Wednesday, August 31, 2011

New Hair Cut

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Kellie Pickler Concert

Saturday night a few of my closest friends and I went to go see Kellie Pickler in concert at the fair!  We had planned on this night for.. months really.. and it was so much fun!!!  I was kinda in a funk and wasn't in the mood to be around people but I forced myself to go and I am so glad that I did. She was frigging awesome!!!  

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Blessings N Love
Overthinking Mama 

Monday, August 29, 2011

summer 2011

I saw this on Pintrest so I wanted to post… because this has been MY Summer 2011

Take chances
Tell the truth
Date someone totally wrong for you
Say no
Spend all of your cash
Get to know someone random
Be random
Say I love you
Sing out loud
Laugh at stupid jokes
Tell someone how much they mean to you
Tell a jerk what you think
Laugh till your stomach hurts
Live life
No regrets.

This summer has been awesome. I told someone that this summer was going to EPIC. And compared probably to most of the past summers… I have to say to a point it definitely was EPIC.

I’ve done more this summer with my friends and family than I have in a very long time.

Spent a lot of time with my son and watching him play baseball.
Went to 2 Indian’s games
Had a jewelry party for a good friend
Attended a wine party
Went to a free concert and saw- Glorianna
Went to a concert with a friend and saw Josh Groban
Myrtle Beach with the family
Kellie Pickler concert with great friends
Lots of karaoke
Nights out w/friends
Outdoor fires with my kids and friends
Girls nights in with my besties

And I swear more has happened during the summer… my mind is just blank.  

How was your summer??

Blessings N Love
Overthinking Mama 

Friday, August 26, 2011

Realization Friday

Its been a crazy week.. to say the least…

Heres the realizations…

I’ve come to realize this week:

~ sometimes it takes just one good night of fun with friends to help move on.

~ sometimes it takes a couple of good nights.

~ that I have some of the bestest friends in the whole wide world!!

~ I am in need of a vaca with no kids… lol.

~ that I hate when neighbors are too nosy

~ that some people are just so two faced… and yet.. that’s just who they are.

~ that as soon as I cut my hair short… my neck gets big huge zits.

~ that life will go on.

Happy Friday Ya’ll.
Have a great weekend.

Blessings N Love
Overthinking Mama 

Thursday, August 25, 2011

Thursday venting

Deep breaths… Deep breaths.

I seem to have no patience this week… what so ever.

First week back from vacation.. and well. Its been a week.

Vacation was awesome. I had a good time.. I think the kids had a great time! We got to relax some.  I completed my goal of reading 3 books… J Yea. I am that dork.

My Love and I broke up while I was gone.. luckily it was on my way home so It didn’t damper the vacation all that much. It is what it is. I hope that maybe we will be able to go back to being friends…. But I guess only time will be able to tell with that.  

Because of that break up and also seeing how some other men act that are in “happy relationships” just make me done. Im not looking. I am not trying. Unless a man can prove himself to me over and above the average man…  I am done.  

My neighbor came over the other day to tell me that I am partying way too much… Apparently having more than 2 people at my house is a party! Thanks for that info. He also let me know that the system that I have in my car is too loud and it rattles his windows… um hate to break it to you… I have a little kia… factory radio. Its not that loud. And doesn’t have that much bass… so its not me. sorry.  I am starting to think that I get blamed for a lot of the other neighborhood drama that occurs just because I am young and don’t have a husband.

I have been trying to keep myself distracted about being single again. I am tired of the games.. the drama. The stress… I just want to be loved.  And part of me fears that I will never find that person.

My Loves ex-wife found out about me and him. And of course text me and called me.  Honestly… I have nothing to say to her. I am not hiding from her.. I am not scared of her. I just don’t want to deal with her crazy drama.  She left him for messed up reasons… She divorced him… She ended mine and her friendship months ago. Me and him didn’t date till months after our friendship ended. AND ME and HIM aint together not more… so sorry… NOTHING to say.

My daughter has a staph infection in her leg.  We were at the ER Tuesday night till after 330am… ugh. She seems to be doing better.. but I am still worried for her. But I know God will get us thru this.

I have no motivation. I hate it. I don’t feel like doing any yard work. The outside of my house looks horrible. Weeds everywhere… grass needs mowed.  I don’t feel like working. I have no motivation there.  I don’t even feel like putting that extra effort in and getting things taken care of with school so I can register for classes. I feel like I am just going thru all of the motions of my life.. but not really living it.  ugh.

Sorry that this post is kinda a downer… Im just venting the things on my mind today. I am sure it will get better… I am just in a mood. I feel out of it lately and I don’t like feeling that way.  L

Blessings N Love
Overthinking Mama 

Friday, August 19, 2011

Realization Friday

Writing this a week in advance. I am still on vaca… heading back today!! I know I am not going to wanna come back…

Here are some realizations.. not from the week I’ve been gone.. but just from whenever.

I’ve come to realize:

~ that my college sucks

~ this summer flew by!

~ God is so good!!

~ My hear is so full!!

~ I am truly blessed even if I don’t always realize it

~ I love music

~ I so just want to be loved fully.

~ That I am in love with my best friend and even tho I dunno what the future holds for us, I am happy we at least tried

~ Some people just have to have drama in their life

~ Its hard to compete with someone’s ex.. if he’s still in love with her.

~ that I am tired of being tired.

Blessings N Love
Overthinking Mama

Thursday, August 18, 2011


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Guest Post: Bliss

Here's another wonderful guest post by the lovely Christina over at IamthatIam. Please make her feel welcome!

Now is the only time we feel - and the screwed up thing is, when we choose (yep, choose) to feel good, better, happy and pleased, around people who don't like our mood, something strange happens.


Has it happened to you?

Have you held back, just a little, on your Bliss, to accommodate the mood of those people who aren't feeling what you're feeling? Have you noticed them not enjoying your presence (that would be your "presents," too) because you are on a roll of Bliss?

We do it to children when we aren't feeling cheery. We want them to "calm down" and "be still" - and "deal" with our grim moods. I think that's where we learned it - as children - to feel guilty for being Blissful.

I have great news for your Bliss - You are officially off the hook for any guilt people try to throw on you for being YOU. Happy, peaceful, joyful and giddy are now forever allowed when gloom is in the room.

That's their decision. There is nothing you can do for them, except be you. They can choose to leave, right? Or they can choose to change and feel good.

Guilt is wasting the moment - and your friends, the people at work or anyone who wants you to feel bad because of them doesn't have a way to give you back your moments. They only try to steal them from you. Kind of insane, isn't it?

They can feel guilt free happiness anytime they choose to. You don't have to wait, or feel guilty for feeling it NOW.

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Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Guest Post: My Cajun Life

First, I want to thank Overthinking Mama for the opportunity to write a guest post. Her blog is one of the first blogs I visited when I came to blogger. Her creativity caught my eye. She is a sweet genuine person. I wish we would live closer so I could really get to know her and her kids.

When I read her post requesting guest posts I thought, what could I write on her blog? I don't consider myself as talented as she is. It is hard forming ideas for my own blog. She told me it could be about anything. So I thought about it. Like magic, I received a sign.

Saturday I received a letter from Big Brothers Big Sisters stating that I have been qualified and they are looking for a LITTLE especially for me!

I had applied to be a BIG a couple of months back. Why?  I love helping people.I want to make a difference in someone's life. 

While my MyLove works outside the home  I am home being the dutiful house partner. It is rewarding but it gets stagnant. I get bored and the walls start to close in on me. One day it was getting bad and I told MyLove  I needed to do something with myself. I didn't want to commit myself to much volunteer because I did that with the church years ago and all of a sudden I was overwhelmed with numerous phone calls for everything else. 

I toyed with the Big Brother/Big Sister idea for quite a while. However, I was afraid they would not accept me as I do have an obvious physical limitation.  I think it was the fear of rejection. 

I thought I am a mother who conceived and raised an independent well adjusted child.  I've overcome obstacles throughout my life when "experts" would say I would fail. I have faced challenges and pushed through them. Why would this be any different? That nagging feeling of being rejected ate at me though.

I pondered and researched Big Brothers/Big Sisters. On a "I can do anything day"  I made a simple inquiry by email. They responded telling me they accept many people as BIG and LITTLE. I went fill out the application and had an interview shortly thereafter.

I was able to talk frankly with the Administrator about my concerns. She, along with her staff reassured me that I could qualify regardless of physical limitation. They do all they can to make a match between the Little and Big interests.

It was a long process but I understood. Most of the kids come from broken or troubled homes so they have to be careful and do a full background check. I had to give three references and I know they checked them because my sister, friend and MyLove told me. HA!

There are two kinds of volunteers.  The school based where the BIG joins the Little at a specified time at school and help the child with school work, play games etc. The community based is where the BIG makes plans for the LITTLE to go elsewhere outside of school like the park or wherever their interest leads them.

Both require as little as an hour a week with your LITTLE.

I decided on the school based because I want to get my feet wet first. My visits will be strictly during the school hours. If my LITTLE  and I agrees later on, we  can move to community based.

I am sure I will be writing about my BIG experience on my blog when I get matched. If you want to read my experience with being a BIG as well as my crazy Cajun life as a disabled person, stop by my blog:My Cajun Life, after you read Overthinking Mama of course. 

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

20 Things to let go of.

1. Let go of attachments: According to Buddhist Philosophy, attachment is one of the roots of all suffering. I can’t agree more. We attach ourselves to all sorts of things even the most self-slapping stupid notions in the universe. Are you attached to something? How much are you attached? Is it keeping you back from something? Is it making you suffer? Look at it straight through – break the illusion. Know that every attachment can be detached.

2. Let go of guilt: Guilt has absolutely no function whatsoever. Think about it – what could guilt possibly resolve? It just holds you imprisoned to self-mortification and sorrow.

3. Let go of Negative thinking: Pessimistic thoughts and negative attitudes keep you locked in a dark aura that permeates in everything you do. It’s a dangerous line to follow. Know that thoughts influence the world around us. Enough said

4. Let go of self-criticism: Many times we are our biggest pain in the neck. We criticize ourselves with the best of intentions but then go over the acceptable limit. Criticism then turns to disempowering messages. Let go of it and be kind and gentle to yourself.

5. Let go of prejudice: Prejudice keeps you bitter and resentful. It restricts your opportunities to connect meaningfully with others.

6. Let go of compulsive thinking: Do you keep on doing something just because you feel you have to do it without any apparent reason? It’s time to honestly reflect on its usefulness and its side-effects.

7. Let go of the need for others’ approval: We often tend to seek approval by others. This is an attention-seeking behaviour and one which threatens our self-confidence and authenticity.

8. Let go of limiting beliefs: Most of our limits are self-imposed. Life doesn’t have defined limits. Our beliefs do. Learn to identify those beliefs which narrow down your possibilities for action and let go of them.

9. Let go of grudges: Let me put it this way – grudges are bad for your heart. Keep them long enough or numerous enough and your health will eventually suffer. Research is showing the relationship between heart disease and emotions such as anger and grudges.

10. Let go of the “I’ll do it tomorrow” attitude:This is a delaying tactic of your subconscious saboteur trying to keep you from accomplishing important tasks. Try to be aware of it when you think it and consciously push yourself to do at least the first part of it. 

11. Let go of anxious thoughts: These are born out of our fear of the unknown and uncertainty about the future. The thought that something unpleasant may happen is only an unreal thought we have created ourselves. Ask yourself: “Is this thought based on real evidence?”

12. Let go of past heartbreaks: A heartbreak can take quite a long time to heal. Your heart is locked as your mind keeps on hovering over the same thought. The thing to realize is that in heartbreaks it is not the loss that make you suffer but the idea you create in your heads about that loss.

13. Let go of bad memories: Sometimes we remember unpleasant things that stir up some sad feelings in us. Bad memories make you relive those sad moments in the present. Keep them where they are – in the past.

14. Let go of useless things: We also attach ourselves to things of all sort. Sometimes we clutter our life with useless objects. Let go of them and simplify your working and living environment.

15. Let go of bad company: If there are people around you that are insincere, harbour envy, are highly pessimistic or disempowering, keep away from them.

16. Let go of the idea that you are a product of your past: One very common mistake we fall into is the belief that we are determined by our past experiences. This limits our view on future possibilities since we are stuck in believing that the future can only be more of the same as our past.

17. Let go of identifying yourself with your job/role: This is one of the risks of modern day life. Since roles are always becoming more specialized we think that we are part of our roles. This makes us lose perspective of our true nature.

18. Let go of counterproductive habits: These are the repetitive patterns of behavior that obstruct or distract you from constructive and productive behavior. They can be anything from watching too much TV and overeating to self-destructive behavior such as drug abuse.

19. Let go of taking things too personally: Very often we are disturbed emotionally because we interpret people’s words and actions from a very subjective perspective. When we take things personally we get irritated, hurt and disappointed.  When you look at life from a more detached and objective point of view, we stay emotionally balanced and focused on our priorities.

20. Let go of the ticking clock: Time is one of our biggest sources of stress. Well, not time really but our perception of it. Sometimes we are enslaved by the concept of time even in our moments of leisure. This has devoured a lot of our genuine freedom and space. Learning to spend moments without the constant awareness of time can be liberating and finally productive.

Blessings N Love
Overthinking Mama

Monday, August 15, 2011

Guest Post: I dont see pop-ups, just forgotten Graves

Hello, I'm Betty from over at " Just Thoughts on a Blog" 
Sarah, aka...Over Thinking Mama asked for volunteers to be her guests and blog for her while she is on vacation this week. I love her blog and really have found that she is a caring, responsible, single mother who is raising her children in a christian based home.  She loves God and her family and it shows in her writings. While your here, read some of her old posts found in her archives, leave a comment or two, and if your not following her, take the time to do so.
Id like to share with you one of my hobbies that I do and tell you a little bit about why I get such a blessing doing this for others....
 3192993164_b6fed97aec  I am a member of FaG as a volunteer to take photos for grave markers of strangers loved ones who do not live in this area. How it works is ,I get emails from Find a Grave telling me there is a request for a photo from someone ,and it tells me the graveyard and name they are looking for. Should I choose to fulfill that request, I go in and claim it, travel to that graveyard, walk the entire yard until I find that persons grave marker. Then I take a photo and email  it threw FaG to the memorial sat up for that person.
Sarah, aka Over thinking Mama, had asked for volunteers to be Guest Posts while she is on vacation this week. I love her blog and reading about her real life raising her children as a single mother. 
Why do I do this? You may find this a strange hobby, but I love it. After doing genealogy now for the last twenty years, I started doing this first for my family tree and then decided I would give it a try as a volunteer. You don't get paid for this with money, but it is very rewarding. That's all it took, I was hooked. Anytime I go to a town I am visiting , I look up to see what graveyards are in that town and see if there are requests made that no one has claimed. Its that easy!
You will be surprised how many graveyards that are not being taken care of and how many forgotten graves of someone's loved ones that aren't being taken care of. I hope when I and my husband are gone that someone will care enough to keep our headstone clean or the weeds from growing around us. I see broken markers and many laying on the ground where they were knocked over. I have seen graves that are really cluttered with old flowers or trinkets that are left by people and piling up like a garage sale. Those graves need to be cleaned up now and then, store away the oldest trinkets, maybe leaving two or three. And I also see where a grave may have been there for about two or three months, and nobody went back and decluttered the dead arrangements and wire stands left from the funeral. I have seen some that had mail boxes for notes, Fire pits, chairs and tables as if they have people sit around all day. I have seen very large, beautiful, gravestones. I've seen rocks as markers, wood signs, or metal. Those  make  you think about how their loved one maybe couldnt afford a headstone, but they cared to mark the grave the best way they could. I see many where the headstones are there with only names and Birthdates. Those are the ones you know are in waiting for the day that person will die. That is what my husband and I are doing. We are designing our stone now to be placed on our plots so all our children have to do is have the grave death dates.
Doing this for people I have never met and will never meet in my lifetime has really been awarding in itself. I get some really nice post from people I have fulfilled their request. I know when someone fills one for me that I cant travel to, I feel so appreciative of the time they took to walk around looking for my love one. This is also a great way for birth dates , death dates , maiden names, and marriage dates to be updated on someone's genealogy. There really is so much  a Headstone tells about a person. Some show scenes of that persons hobby, what they did for a living, or a photo of the person who lies there.
The saddest is how many children have died. You know where they are thou. They were never accountable for a sinful life. They are innocent, little angels that God had a plan for early in their life.
This is not a scary hobby! I haven't seen any pop-ups yet! I only feel the people saying thank you for visiting me today!
In a Nut shell……We Are The Story Tellers……We are the chosen. My feelings are, in each family, there is one who seems called to find the ancestors. To put flesh on their bones and make them live again, to tell the family story and to feel that somehow they know and approve. To me, doing genealogy is not a cold gathering of facts but, instead, breathing life into all those who have gone before. We are the storytellers of the tribe. All tribes have one. We have been called, as it were, by our genes. Those who have gone before cry out to us: Tell our story.

Dear Ancestor ,
Your tombstone stands among the rest; In this field of green. The name and date are chiseled out For all the world to see. It reaches out to all who care, It is too late to mourn. You did not know that I'd exist, You died long before I was born. Yet we are of one, you and I, in flesh, in blood, in bone. Our blood contracts and beats a pulse Entirely not our own. Dear Ancestor, the life you lived one hundred years ago spreads out among the ones you left who would have loved you so. I wonder if you lived and loved, I wonder if you knew that someday I would find this spot, And come to visit you.
Betty Ann

Friday, August 12, 2011

Realization Friday

Well!!! Today!!! Is!!!! Friday!!!!

I’m off on my adventure tomorrow!! I so can not wait!!!

I have my best friend coming over and house sitting and dog sitting for me while I am gone!!

I am so ready to go!!!

I have come to realize:

~ that I completely and totally need a vactions!!

~ that I don’t think I have been this excited for a vacation in a very very very long time!!!

~ that I am always tired… must stop and get some vitamin shots or something!!!

~ that I am truly blessed.. even tho sometimes my focus gets shifted and I don’t always realize it.

I hope ya’ll have a great weekend.. and week… Ill be back in about a week!! J

Blessings N Love
Overthinking Mama 

Thursday, August 11, 2011

all good.

I have so many thoughts going thru my head… so many emotions…

I have a lot to think about… I love to feel about… lol.  but I know now matter what… in the end.. it will be all good!!!

I have been in a dancing mood lately!! Lol

My Love was over last night and I had the radio on and doing a little booty shake.. haha.. I don’t think he was expecting me to be dancing… and probably thinks I am crazy. OH WELL.

I so can not wait for Saturday!!! I am leaving. I think I am going to make a stop to visit my daughters family.  (yes my ex’s family) I still consider them family. I am closer with them than my ex is. And I would like my daughter to get to know her family- esp. her sisters down there.  And who knows… it might be the last time Ill be able to get down there to see them. Who knows?! 

I have guest posts set up for next week while I am gone.

I plan on trying to do a couple picture posts from my phone while I am gone… but I am not making any promises.

Blessings n love
Overthinking Mama 

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

My Mom's Birthday 8/4/11

On the merry go round!! being a big kid! 

Lil Man and Baby Girl- on the ferry over to the island

My big brother 

Birthday Girl My mom and stepdad

The Island

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Monday, August 8, 2011

started last week...

Its one of those days… where I know I want to write something… I feel it in my soul to write something… but my mind hasn’t figured out what exactly to write.. I have a lot of different things going thru my head today.
I am an over thinking… I over analyze and I over worry. I am tryin to get better with all of it… and in a lot of areas I have… but I have my moments where I slip and there I am again. Today. I am thinking…… and thinking…. And thinking… 

That was a blog post I started last week… and never finished… Apparently that was my theme for last week! Lol.

Thursday was my mom’s birthday. I left work early and we went over to Put N Bay for the day! It was fun, but exhausting…. And it made my back hurt even worse.

Friday I called off work. I felt like poop. I had a headache and my back was killing. I still went and took baby girl to the sitter cuz I knew she would have more fun there than at home with me.. which as it turns out was good.  About 5 minutes after I got in the door from dropping her off… my stepmom called. Both her and my dad weren’t feeling good and wanted me to take them up to the ER… in the next town. Ugh. So I spend my Friday in an uncomfortable chair… waiting.  Both of them got admitted into the hospital. My dad with pneumonia and my stepmom… well I am not sure exactly what.. but she has lung cancer and has just been not feeling good lately. I know they gave her a blood transfusion on Saturday…  They are both feeling better now and hopefully will be coming home soon! J

Today once again.. I have been thinking a lot…

A friend and I were talking about this… and she said:
I really don’t get people.. you have a good man and yet you would rather be out running the streets seeing what out there instead of what you got at home.

And it made me start thinking about my own relationship…  I have a good man.. but sometimes I just don’t get him. at all.
I love him so much… probably more than I have ever loved any other man and that scares the hell out of me… especially have an issue we had last week… and that has made me question myself and our whole relationship.  It makes me doubt everything now and I don’t know what to do or how to change it… so I just keep going to see what if, because if I end it now…  I may regret it… I don’t know.  I guess its one of those things where time will tell.  

Yesterday seemed to be a hard day for so many of my friends. They were fighting with their boyfriends/girlfriends. Depressed over failed relationships… for being alone… for being unhappy with their life.   Me included. This whole weekend was just a bunch of ups and downs.  Friday night had to be the worst. I haven’t been that depressed in a while.. for no good reason..  and thankfully my bestfriend was there for me to cheer me up and put a smile on my face. J I have to have some of the bestest friends a chicky could ask for. J  

Anywho… I am gaining a lot of insight and a different perspective on life… and I am thankful for it.  
I know God has a plan… I prayed for a calmness Saturday morning and he definitely gave that to me!!  If it weren’t for HIM I would be nothing.

Blessings N Love
Overthinking Mama

Tuesday, August 2, 2011


 I decided to change up the look a little bit... so I went all out.   yea it looks like something bled to death on the top of my head at one point... but I love it!!  Sadly, its already starting to fad :-(  
bleaching it... 

gotta love the horrible yellow orange color... maybe i shoulda left it on just a little bit longer?! oh well. 
i seriously felt like i was pouring blood on my head... 


So far I love it. Though I am ready for something different again... I just don't know what yet. lol.  And when I wash my hair... the water is still pink- which kinda sucks.  and my towels are even pinker... which sucks even more.  But I do love it. So I guess we shall just see.  
Blessings N Love
Overthinking Mama