sex without orgasim... a man's worst fear!

Researchers advice that it is best not to focus on orgasm too much as it can be self-defeating especially for males. It’s best to think about sex as an erotic activity with pleasurable after effects and bonding. Plus improved health, with some great side benefits!.
http://www.sexhealthbenefits.com/article1.htm


I found this quote and I love it!!!

I know me personally and a few of my good female friends have had many conversations about sex and having an orgasim. And the problems that they have to acheive orgasim with a man. They have no problem when alone.. but with a man is a totally different story. And the men that they have been with and their reactions to not being able to make a woman cum.

I had one man I was in a relationship with tell me that he didn't want to have sex with me becuase he could not make me cum. He felt like less of a man because of it. I understand that feeling to a point. I have been with men that go soft in the middle of the whole thing... and the first thought that comes to my mind is - what am I doing wrong? do I not arouse him? does he not find me sexy? etc. etc. But never have I once been like. Oh well I will not have sex with you again because of it! It makes me want to work harder, to pay better attention to see what he likes and doesn't like, and to ask him what feels good and what doesn't.

There are many different reason why a woman may not be able to orgasim other than she doesn't like you or you aint good in bed. She may not feel all that great, stress, a lot on her mind, insecurity, displeasure with herself or her body, nerves (esp. if its the first time), has pleasured herself and gotten used to doing it herself and there are many other reasons I am not aware of I am sure.

I love it when a man tells me that I am the only girl that he has never made cum. I have to laugh (normally on the inside to not offend him) but then I tell him, majority of those women, were probably faking! Now I am not saying that all of them were... but I can almost guarentee that no man has made every single women he has slept with (if its more than one) orgasim every single time they have had sex. I am not a porn star... and I will not fake an orgasim. To me, that just seems silly... why lie?

One thing a man has to learn to realize... for most women. Sex isn't always about the orgasm... Its about the connection with the person you are with, the endorphens that are relased thru sex and the adreneline you feel from sex, the love in many cases.

what a woman will do for love... lost...

I was listening to a friend talk to another friend the other day...

She was talking about how when she was little, her mom took her to a bar to find the man the mom was in love with. Or how he mom sent her into a bar a couple times looking for this man.



It is amazing what a women will do with her kids in tow to find a man if she thinks he's cheating, because of jealousy and insecurity.



I am just as guilty as the next person for it too!!



Back in Oct. my ex and I tried to get back together... 2days later all of a sudden he didnt want to be with me... just wanted to stay how we were... I was devestated... this man had my heart... so my first assumtion was that he was seeing someone else... One evening he said he was gonna go play basketball... so i text him and asked if he wanted to stop by and hang out... no answer... an hour goes by and I knwo he should be done playing... so I text again... no answer... so i call.. and call and call.. now i am getting pissed and worried.... 330 in the morning... he still hadnt answered... so I knew something was up... so I got my kids up out of bed (on a school night) and into the car... and we drove past his house... HE WASNT HOME!! hhmm... so I drove past his ex's. He wasnt there either. Finally 7am he text me. He went out with friends.. (right!) and didnt get home till 4. But I did something stupid. I shouldnt have given into my fears, my insecurities and taken my kids out of the house at 330 in the morning to go looking for a man that obviously was not worth my time nor effort.



I remember when I was little, about 7 or so, my parents were in the middle of their divorse, my dad had his own place... and I guess my mom had talked him earlier... andhe said he was gonna shower and then go do laundry... My mom knew him well enough that he didnt shower at night just to do laundry... Later on she called again. No answer... so she bundled me and my bro up (on a school night) and took us over to his apartment... My dad's car was gone. So we sat there and waited... and waited... and waited... and then she seen him... walking in the apt. with a woman.

Hell broke loose for a moment in time.



Why do we give in to our fears and worries? why do we become phsycotic bitches when a man is messing with our hearts? Why do we give them that power that they obviously aint worthy of?



What is the crazy thing you have done to check on a man you are in love with? What were the results?