Tuesday, November 8, 2011

I call bs.

So the last few days… when talking with people that I haven’t talked to in the past couple weeks…  they have said that the reason why they haven’t contacted me is cuz they were giving me “space” cuz they knew I was going threw a lot… to a point I understand that… but to a point, I call bs! 

To me, and maybe I am odd on this or have a selfish type view, but if the situation was reversed and it was their step mom or whomever that they were close to that had passed away, I wouldn’t step away. I would step closer and make sure that they knew I cared, that I was there for them, that I was thinking about them.   I wouldn’t go over board with it.. but a text every few days or a message on facebook to check in on them or whatnot.. I wouldn’t insist that we need to get together or talk or anything like that… but I would make sure that they knew I still cared.

That’s all I wanted. To know that my friends were still there. That they didn’t “run off” because I had something devastating happen in my life. My best friend was there for me. She text me every single day to make sure I was alright… to try and cheer me up .. to keep me positive.   And I am so thankful for that. It made our relationship that much stronger.   When she found out that my stepmom had passed she told me she was sorry and that she was there for me… I didn’t have to seek her out for that.  She didn’t act like it was a burden to have to tell me that.. to be there for me.  She wanted to.   I had a few people come to showing and the funeral.. I know it was hard for them.. but they showed me that they cared… and they have no idea how much that meant to me… words cant express the appreciation I have for that… or the people that did take the time to wish me their condolences and actually take a moment out of their life to talk to be about things. J

I do understand that some people have issues with death and funeral and whatnot… but I still don’t think its too much to ask for a simple text saying “im sorry about your stepmom”

Anywho.. it is what it is… I am not going to dwell on that.. I just needed to get it off my chest. I am going to think positive and I am going to be happy. Period. J

Blessings N Love
Overthinking Mama 


  1. I liked your last sentence today...
    I am going to think positive and I am going to be happy.
    Good for you!!!!

  2. You are so right Sara! And I've been stuck in my own little world with my craziness and was one of the selfish ones. I DO APOLOGIZ! I did send you condolences at the beginning and things just kept snowballing for me but its no excuse. Hope you can find it inside that you can forgive me.

  3. Dear Sara,
    I have been offline from Blogger so much lately, and I had no idea - I am sorry for your loss, and the grief you and your family have been through. Any death causes us to pause, appreciate life in a new way, and find meaning in life we may not have recognized before, and healing always takes time.
    I am sorry your friends were not, in one way or another, available in a way that you needed (been there, too). I don't know if it helps you in any way, but if there is one thing I have learned it's this: when you are strong (and I think you are) many people are actually afraid to show up. When you are the one they turn to, they don't know how to turn to help you - they are at a loss. I'm not saying that makes what you went through in feeling abandoned in some way okay - not at all - I'm saying that sometimes "friends" get stuck in their own heads. . .and rather than "screw up" just don't take the risk to show up at all.
    Peace, blessings and hope for everything you dream to keep coming true - Best to you to, Christina


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