MEN! UGH!

So.. this last week was good... in a way! lol.

I got hit on by a guy as I was shopping at the Salvation Army! I don't think I have been approached by a man... in over a year... :-( So it was very flattering... We exchanged numbers and about 3hrs later... I kinda figured out what his agenda was... and it def. wasnt like mine... He wanted a booty call... Sorry boy.. Im not a botty call kinda girl. So a couple days later I text him pretty much so he couldnt come back and later on say- well you never text me. And I was just like - wanted to say hi. He wrote back: sorry been busy. dont think me and you have the same ideas of what we want. i dont want to waste your time. I wrote to him: no big deal. I want a friendship that will possible lead to a relationship. He replyed: i want a friendship that will lead to benefits. I said well if you want to be friends, cool. but thats all it will ever be. He wrote back. perhaps but I dont want to waste our time. I replyed. Ok cool! And that was that!
Ya know... At least he was honest.

Then my friends birthday was this weekend, so we went out to dinner. I joked with her if there were gonna be any cute guys (cuz i dated her boyfriends bestfriend awhile back and also went on a couple dates with another of his friends.. neither worked out.. moved on. no biggie.) He co-worker was there and took the phone from her and said he was going to be there... Next thing I knew I got a friend request on facebook... Ok.. cool. Checked him out. I had met him before and had thought he was attractive then... but after i seen his profile i realized he's 5 years younger than me... *flag* but... id give him a chance.. we can at least be friends... maybe... lol. anyways that night at dinner... he showed himself.. lol. he was obnoxious... him and another guy that was there (both whom were drinking) started bantering back and forth... talking bs back and forth to each other... the other guy stopped a couple times... this guy... just couldnt let it stop. Ok.. i get it.. he's young and gotta prove himself... but really? just shut up. sometimes... being quiet and letting things be.. is the best for everyone... it aint worth it! but he just proved his immaturity to me that night.
We texted back and forth and via text he seems like a cool dude... a cool friend... but im not looking for a playdate, to be mommy or even a babysitter... *sigh*
maybe i set my standards too high! lol.

men... and their "chics"

ok...
I personally find this hilarious!!!

Guys that hit on my thru myspace, facebook, and any other "friend" sites out there... telling me how beautiful they think I am... how they want to get to know me... etc... ok.. thank you.. its flattering....
But how am I supposed to take a man seriously when I look at their profile/page... and there 50 other chics on there leaving you comments like "i love you", I wish i was in bed with you, and o the things i want to do to you, cant wait to see you again, last night was great... Honestly... that just makes them out to seem like a player... and why should I waste my time with a player...

Obviously the "man" is saying similar things to these other chics otherwise why would they be bothering leaving messagese for him? So why should I believe that I am special as he may say? Why should I think I would be treated any differently than those other chics?

Honestly even if all he was saying to me is the truth... First of I am grown. I dont need to deal with a man that has to have an ego boost and have all these women flaunting themselves all over his page... Secondly, I dont need the drama... Ill be the first to say girls are possessive and well for lack of better word.. bitchy. We are territorial... and I dont wanna deal with the drama and the bs that some other chic maybe wanting to start.

guys??

Now you have to remember that this blog is written from a woman's point of view...

I was talking with my friend over the weekend. And she has been talking to this guy for a few weeks now, and really likes him. She's not sure how he feels. He's a manly man, and doesn't really talk about his feelings that much. She knows he doesn't want to rush into anything and really she doesn't either but also wants to know he feels... They have hung out a couple of time... and the last time that they hung out they ended up having sex. She felt really good about everything, even tho it had happened earlier than she thought it would or should. But it felt right.
Then the next few days that followed... He seemed more distant. And maybe it was just that he was busy or something... but he didn't call as much, he didn't text as much. And when he did, it was distant. So now she's worrying that maybe that was all he really wanted to get laid and be done... That he doesn't feel the same way she does. But then maybe she is putting the horse before the carriage and just thinking way to much for everything.

But sex is kinda a big thing... unless maybe it put out there in the first place where both parties stand... like if its just a friendship thing and that's all it will ever be. But when one party is thinking that maybe there is more than there is one person is going to get hurt.
So I am sitting here thinking/wondering... do guys feel like this? Do guys feel the emotional connection from sex that women do? Do they get caught up in the moments and feel more than they let on?

Why can't guys after they have had sex with a girl... try and do a lil bit more than he has to show her that it wasn't just a great lay... and now he's done. That there is more in his heart than what is in his pants. I know girls are complicated... and maybe we should band together and make a instruction manual up for men so they know how to treat a woman!
Be sweet, compliment, show interest, text randomly thru out the day, leave sweet messages- on phone, email,facebook, myspace, wherever, flowers, candy, balloons... anything that will make the girl know that she was more than just sex. You see more to her than just what she's got going on under all her clothes.

Whats your opinion?

A Real Man! ~great article.

~ A man should let me be me... Give me my freedom. Will not try and suffocate me, judge me, or drowned me in their own self pity.

~ A man should have a good job... at least good enough to support himself and a family.

~ A man should have a car or some mode of transportation... not his mommy or daddy and sure as hell not me.

~ A man should be open... open to my idea, my friends, crazy family, to new ideas, to love, to loss, to adventure etc...

~ A man need to be positive... at least most of the time... support me, encourage me, love me... even if i am doomed to fail... Don't be negative nick all the time... its a turn off.

~ A man needs to know how to make love to a woman... truely make love... not just sex... not just fuck.. but truely make love to her... look into her eyes, gently kiss every inch of her body, whisper in her ear sweet things, caress her, be gentle with her, mainly show her how much you love her thru love making...

~ A man needs to be sensitive to a womans needs, emotionally, physically, mentally, financially (anything ending in ly... lol.)

~ A man needs to know how to respect his woman in every possible way.

~ A man needs to know how to keep his dick in his pants, his tounge in his mouth and his thoughts on his girl...

~ A man should be willing to do housework and shouldn't be closed minded as to think the woman's job is to cook and clean and the man's is to do the mowing... its the 90's grow up.. with that thinking ... a man better have a damn good job so his woman can stay home too!

~ A man should be willing to get a second job if needed, not expect his woman to work 2 or 3 jobs or all the extra overtime just to support him and his desires.

~ A man should not be afraid to compliment his woman all the time... not just wait for her to say something about something...

~ A man needs to know how to listen... and remember... because a woman NEVER forgets!

~ A man should want what the woman he is with wants.. they should have mutual goals and desires.

~ A man need to know patience...

~ A man needs to know HOW to love his partner... and need to be aware of how his woman needs to be loved.

~ A man should be willing to please his woman sexually in anyway she wants... and she will do the same in return...

~ A man should be honest with himself and with him woman. if he loves her lies are unneeded unless of course diamonds are involved...



Overall a man should devote him self to making his woman happy in anyway possible... (oh if only there was such a man!)