Well, In case you didn’t know… I have met someone!! YAY!!

I did the whole online dating site thing for a few months (from like Sept- Dec). Prayed A LOT about it and kinda left it into God’s hands.  I went on some dates. Met some great guys.  Met some crazy ones too.  I didn’t let my heart nor my head control my choices and my emotions but I left all that up to God.  I prayed for him to open my heart when the right man came along. So with all of those great guys (and thankfully the crazy ones too) , I didn’t really feel anything… I saw them in a different light. Saw their issues.. the red flags and because my heart wasn’t involved in it… I was able to make a rational choice and move on.   The middle of December I decided I was done. I was done with the online dating thing and trying to meet someone. Again, I put that into God’s hands and let it be what it was.  Right before I closed my account I received one more message. We both decided to exchange email addresses since it was easier for both us to communicate that way and then I closed my account.  We emailed back and forth and I found myself very anxious to receive his emails. J (ooohhh!!!!).  We finally exchanged phone numbers and haven’t stopped texting since.   

It’s been almost two months since he first contacted me and I don’t think a day has gone by since, that we haven’t talked in some form.   And here comes the tricky part… I am falling in love with him.  And no that’s not the tricky part.  The tricky part is me. And my head.  I’ve kept my wall up for the past year so I wouldn’t be hurt… and the one and only time I put it down over the summer- I GOT HURT.  Now my wall is down.. and I am so scared of being hurt. Scared that I am going to have all these strong emotions for this wonderful man… and he’s not going to feel the same.  L

But in order to be able to fully be loved… I need that wall down and need to keep it down. Otherwise I won’t be able to feel the love that he does give me or be able to give anything in return.  I will be more susceptible to be hurt… but I will also be more susceptible to feel something amazing. 

So I am putting in all in God’s hands.  Whatever happens will happen.  I can’t dwell on the negative what ifs.  If it doesn’t work out… then it doesn’t. I will have learned from it and will move on (tho I already know that if that happens.- Im done with dating. Lol)  But if it does work out… this is going to be amazing. 

God has a plan for us.

Blessings N Love

Overthinking Mama 

Marriage Quotes

I found this awesome Blog and wanted to share it with you: ToLove, HONOR and vacuum by Shelia Wray Gregoire…

One of the articles that I read was The 50 best Marriage quotesof 2011… Below are some of my favorites that I thought I would share.  Reading these quotes make me even more anxious and excited to finally be married to the man that God has planned of me. I can’t wait to be the wife God wants me to be.

Your only expectation of your future husband should be that he walk with Jesus.You want a man who will be a spiritual leader and that you worship Jesus together. If you have that, the chances of having a happy marriage are very high.
Lori Alexander, Your Standard of Beauty

Marriage is hard work and can be a bumpy road at times. But if I hang on tight to the hem of Jesus and the hand of my husband – I’ll have the best ride of my life!
Women Living Well, 14 Things I’ve Learned in 14 Years of Marriage

 Love is by definition focused on its object. If I’m thinking about me, I am not focused on loving my man.
Elspeth, Traditional Christianity, The Heart of the Five Love Languages

 It’s one of those cases where you may win the battle but lose the war. In marriage, it’s either win-win or lose-lose. There is no win-lose. If you both don’t win, you both lose.
To Love, Honor and Vacuum, Am I too Hard on Women?

Nowhere in the Bible does it say that we should wait for someone else to do the right thing before we do the right thing.
To Love, Honor and Vacuum, Am I too Hard on Women?

Sex is God’s idea. It is His blessing to husbands and wives. It is His provision for making children, increasing intimacy, and providing pleasure to married couples whom He loves. Take a brief moment today to thank Him for sex.
Hot, Holy and Humorous, Are you Thankful for Sex?

Sex will fall by the wayside if you do not intentionally make it a priority.
One Flesh Marriage, Sex is the Glue

Sex should be deeply intimate and connecting, and while the physical pleasure is great and important, too much focus on that (for yourself or your bride) means not having the ability to focus on other vital aspects of the sex act. Maybe we would all enjoy sex more, and maybe even have more of it, if we stuck to a narrow menu, with something extra thrown in only very rarely.
Generous Husband, How Much Variety Does it Take?

 Researchers found that spouses who reported above-average sexual satisfaction were 10 to 13 times more likely to be “very happy” in their marriage, compared with those who were less satisfied sexually.
Marriage Gems, Want a Happier Marriage? Be Generous

 Intimacy should not be equated with sex. In fact, chances are, if you aren’t intimate in the other areas of your life your sexual intimacy will be one of the first things to suffer.
Marriage Life, Intimacy is a Marathon not a Sprint

Give your man a break. Let him be who God designed him to be.
Hot, Holy and Humorous, Prince Ideal vs. Prince Real

You don’t have to agree with him over everything. Just value him, listen to him and take him into consideration when there are choices to be made. And, please, never disgrace him publicly.
The Generous Wife, Worth and Value

You might think that you have all of the answers and need to protect your husband from making the wrong choice, but nagging, pouting, losing your temper and complaining aren’t going make him a better man.
Time Warp Wife, Trust in the Potter

As I released my fears and unrealistic expectations, I started to really like and love my man for who he is – as a husband, father and friend. My heart and my marriage began to heal.
Renee Swope, RooMag, Searching for Happily Ever After

 Kiss every chance you get.
Intimacy in Marriage, Do You Really Have Plenty of Time to Nurture Your Marriage?

Please make sure you check out the blog and the above article to read all of the great quotes!

Blessings N Love

Overthinking Mama

My- Mama Style

My- MAMA Style

Shirt- Abercrombie-Thrifted- 8.99

Undertank- Target-$5.99

Jeans- Refuge-Charlotte Russe $15.00

Shoes- Walmart $16.99

Blessings N Love

Overthinking Mama 

1st Hockey Game

 I took the boys to their first Hockey Game!! They absolutely loved it! And so did I and my bff! It was a ton of fun! I can't wait to go again.  Now Lil Man and his Lil Buddy wanna learn how to play hockey. HHMMM... that could be a good idea... one way to get out some pent up aggression and get out some of that unused energy that seems to come out in the post inopportune times. :-p  

cheese!! 

funny faces! 

big purses come in handy when your hands are full! 

fight! fight! fight! 

hehe.. we match- and didnt even mean to. White shirt anyone??!! 

view of the city :-) love it. 

souvenirs! 

Blessings N Love

Overthinking Mama 

Realization Friday

Well Its back to that time again! Its Friday!! TGIF!!!  

So... what does that mean??!! But yes!! Its Realization Friday Time!!!  

Thank you everyone who gave me some realizations for the week!!  Its appreciated!!

aaaannnndddd.... we are off:

This week I have come to realize:

~       that extreme temperatures either hot or cold, give me headaches.

~                 that there needs to be a puase button for the day, so that I can have more time and can get to the gym and not miss out on my kiddie time!

~                 that I am a complete airhead at times

~       that sometimes compared to him... i kinda feel like my thought process is hippie like. lol.

~                 That word is really irritating me today. ggrrr..

~                 that my bff is awesome.

~                 that my motivation for the gym as seriously slacked since last week. ugh.

~       that my mom is awesome!

~       that i am looking forward to seeing My Love tonight :-)

~       that I truly am blessed!

Alright guys.. thats it for this week... please send me your realizations for my post next week: overthinkingmama@gmail.com

Have a great weekend!! Gonna try and post pics all weekend... but ya know.. we will see how that goes! lol.

Blessings N Love

Overthinking Mama 

retweets of the week

I love retweeting great sayings… Here are some from this week that I have retweeted!! J

I'd rather hear a guy say, "I made plans for us." Instead of the usual... "I don't know, it's whatever you wanna do."

If it’s meant to be, it will be. If not, it won’t. Simple as that

I love the way you lie...LOL JK, if you lie to me again i will throw a brick at your face.

God works in ways that us as human cant understand !

if you want to be treated with respect, you must respect others. That includes those you don’t agree with, or may not even like . #reality

The spaces between your fingers were created so that another's could fill them in.

Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice, but falling in love with you was beyond my control.

Sometimes you just have to sit and give yourself alone time to work out some emotional confusions.

Blessings N Love

Overthinking Mama  

Not enough time.

I am starting to feel the overwhelming-ness of life today. Ugh. 

I feel like I hardly ever have any time at home anymore. And I hate it. I am always on the run to somewhere!  

My average night the past couple weeks have consisted of: work till 5/515. pick up kid. Go to moms for other kid and dinner. Take Dad food/check on him. Gym. 730/800 ish go pick up kids from mom and head home.  I am lucky if I am home by 8/830 every night.

I am seriously thinking that maybe I just can’t go to the gym afterwork. L I really can’t go every day on my lunch either.  There just isn’t enough time. L It would be easier if I had someone at home to help with the kids… I could go to the gym after they were in bed. But that isn’t a possibility. So I have to figure something else out.  Ugh.

I know life will get easier eventually… but right now… I am just exhausted.  I don’t even hardly have time to see my new boyfriend.  Maybe once a week if we are lucky.

Oh well. I supposed that is life. J  And I am blessed.

Blessings N Love

Overthinking Mama