Hardest time in my life thus far

I have to say this past month has been one of the hardest in my life.

My father passed away August 7th.

He called me up on the 2nd and said he wasn't really feeling well and that he thought his sugar had dropped and didnt want to be alone. So, I went over to his house and picked him and brought him to my house. We had dinner with him. Steak, Mashed potatoes, and corn on the cob.  Never would have thought this would be his last meal or that this would be the last time I would ever get to share a meal with my father. I took him home after dinner since he was feeling better. About an hour or so later, he called me up and said that he needed to go to the ER. He was bleeding badly from his rectum. So up the the ER we went. He was admitted since he had lost so much blood and they couldn't figure out the cause or how to stop it.  I didn't think too much of it. He was always strong and pulled through everything. The next day we went up to the hospital after dinner to visit with him. They had gotten his permission to intabate him and do a colonoscopy. I would never see my father fully conscious again. They did the procedure to no avail. They decided he needed to go a more specialized hospital. So he was life flighted to UH Cleveland. We drove out there and stayed with him as much as we were aloud as they did tests, procedures and explained everything that they were planning on doing.  Finally about 4am we decided to go home, with the promise of the nurse that they would call me immediately if anything changed.

The next day we went up to see him after my sister got into town.  Everything was just about the same. They were going to try new procedure and test to get to the root of the issues.  He was still intabated.

Friday as I was getting ready to head up to see him, my husband called and was told that he needed to get to the hospital immediately because his GreatMom (great grandma) was dying. We rushed up there and spent most of the day.  We came home and got word that they were planning on taking my dad off the ventalator, the bleeding had stopped and he didn't need the vent anyway. So we grab my son and head up there. He was some what awake when we got there. He was very groggy and out of it, but he knew we were there. He was joking with us and everything. We stayed awhile and then went to get dinner.

The next morning we decided since he was doing better we were going up to see him in the morning for a bit and then go to a concert that we had tickets for since Christmas in the afternoon.  We went up to see him and he seemed more out of it than the day before. We talked to the nurse and he assured me that it was something that happens from time to time and it was nothing to worry about.  My sister was planning on going up in the afternoon to be with him. We headed to the concert and got a call from my husbands family that Greatmom had a stroke. We headed to her hospital.  She was stable and ok when we got there. We visited for a bit and then headed up to the concert.

Sunday morning I woke up to many voicemails from the hospital. I never took my phone off vibrate when I got home that night. My father took a turn for the worse. They had to put him back on the ventalator to keep him stable. His heart had stopped multiple times throughout the night for a couple minutes at a time but it started back up on its own. (he had a dnr) We rush up to the hospital and was told pretty much the ventalator was keeping him alive. I made the decision to take him off since his wishes were to not be on that. He didnt want to be a vegitable kept alive by machines. We waited till his family and friends were able to come up and say their good byes.
And then they took him off.  He lived for maybe 20 minutes before his heart finally gave out.

I will never forget that morning.  I will never forget the way my dad looked. I will never forget that morning.

Pretty much what had happened was that he had a burst artery in his intestines. Normally that wouldnt be a big deal, it would clot and stop bleeding. But he was on asprin to thin his blood and also blood thinners. So it never clotted. They took him off the meds for that, gave him platelets and his blood clotted and he stopped bleeding.  But, his heart wasn't good. He had a 98% blocked artery and also a 100% blocked on and a few others that weren't open very well either... so now that his blood was thicker- it couldn't get passed the blockages and his heart couldn't handle it.

My father was an amazing man.

I will never forget this. I will never forget him.

I love you Daddy.

Blessing N Love
Overthinking Mama

Samia- 8 Years Old!!

My beautiful Samia!!

Happy Birthday my precious child!

You are a beautful Child of God. And I am blessed to call you my daughter.

Thi s is the 3rd birthday you have gotten to celebrate with us. I am so happy!

I am so thankful that God saw that you needed a Mama and thought that I was the perfect one for the job.  I may not always feel like I am being a good mama to you and our family but God knows what He is doing.

You will be going into 2nd grade in a month!! You are growing up so quickly.

You love going to cedar point with us and riding every roller coaster that you can get on. Hopefully next year you will be tall enough to ride even more.

You over explain everything you try to tell us.

When you grown up you said you want to work at Walmart (like grami), at IGA (like brett) and at Burlington (like mama).

You love to swim and be in water.  Grami has taken you for swim lessons and I think  that they have definetly helped.

Oh and your kitty just had kittens... in your bed. You were so happy for that!! You love all the kittys so much already and don't want us to get rid of any of them... but I am sorry princess, we kinda have to.. I don't think I could handle 7 cats running around!!

I love you so much Samia!

I cant wait to see what the future holds for you!!



Blessings N Love
Overthinking mama

Just in a Funk

This week has been a week from hell.

I don't know if this is just what a normal week is and I am just in a bad mood and can't handle it or what the deal is... but its 10:30 on a Saturday morning and I am ready to pop open a bottle of wine and sip my hearts desire.

But I know in adult world... that isn't possible.

I just feel like screaming this week.

I haven't felt great and because of that I haven't kept up on my chores like I should...and no one else has stepped up to help out either.

I am just in a funk I guess. I feel like all I am here for is to clean up after everyone. I am not appreciated. I am not respected. I am the maid.

Deep down I know that isn't true... but on the surface that is what it seems like.

I am blessed. I know I am. I am so thankful for the beautiful children God has given me. I am thankful for my jobs. My vehicle, my house, for my family and friends. I am really blessed to call them my own.

I am just in a funk... and I know that it will take me blowing up and blowing everything out of porportion and seem like a crazy mama to make anything change... and I am trying not to get to that point... ugh.

I am just going to go pop a couple prozac... sip my coffee... and pray.


Blessings N Love
Overthinking Mama

1/2 gone

I can't believe that the summer is half over already!!

It has been a busy fun summer tho!

We have gone on vacation to Frankenmuth, Michigan.

We have been to Cedar Point at least 15times if not more.

We have celebrated Baby Lily's first birthday.

We have had many cook outs with family and friends.

We had an adult day at Put In Bay.

I am working 3 jobs.

Brett's working 6 days a week.

We have taken the big girls and their friends to the drive in.

My sister in law had a baby girl.

My best friend had a baby girl. 

And the summer is only half over. lol.

I can't wait to see what the rest of the summer holds!


Blessings N Love
Overthinking Mama

Lily's First Birthday!

My little LilyBee is officially ONE years old! Its crazy to see how quick time flies!!! 

She is such a sweet little baby girl!! 

She is crawling and pulling her self to stand up on anything she can.

 She can climb in and out of her highschair that sits on the floor. 

She has two bottom teeth.

She says Hi to anyone and everyone she can. 

She is totally a mamas girl! 

She loves to eat and will throw a fit when she is all done or out of food! 

She drinks from a sippy cup. 

She loves to steal her big sissy's binky... and her big sissy loves to steal it right back. 

She loves our doggies. 

She is known as baby to her first big sissy mady (who is almost 2)

She goes today for her One year well child visit! 

Blessings N Love

Overthinking Mama 

Change

I hope everyone had a great memorial day weekend.

Now its back to the daily grind of life. lol

I am actually sitting here in the hospital waiting on my dad to come out of surgery. He is in having a heart cath.

We had a cook out over the weekend. I invited a ton of people. Everyone I could think of. Everyone that I used to be friends with... well I still consider them friends but we just really dont hang out anymore.

Most of those people... didn't come to the cook out.  And that made to really think about how much has changed since the last cook out that I had.

It seemed like I had more friends back then. Now I have a small handful of friends- people that I hang out with on a regular basis.

Marriage changes things. Especially friendships. People that I used to hang out with a lot are people I rarely talk to anymore. I am not upset with them- they are not to blame, nor am I. Situations change. People change. Priorities change. Its life.

It is a little saddening that people that I used to tell everything to. That when I went out for a drink, they were the first person I called. That when I had a bad day, I called for comfort. And vice versa. Now? Nada.  I can't even get them to come to a cook out. lol

I am not upset or anything- sad, a little bit yes. But I have learned it is life.  We don't have the same interests anymore. We don't have the same commonalities.  I would still be there for them if needed and if I can, but I also know that I wouldn't be the first person they call.  I would still hang out with them and I still consider them friends... I just know life goes on. Life changes.


Blessings N Love
Overthinking Mama

Monday

I used to love Mondays. 

It was always the first day of the week and I was normally well rested from the weekend. Sunday's were normally my lazy day and I could rest, nap, and recoup from the week.  Lately... that is not the case. 

Just seems lately when it rains it pours...

Monday's I am now always exhausted.  I don't want to get out of bed. And even last night, we were in bed at 8pm, we weren't able to go to sleep till after 10. No one else in the house was tired and no one else wanted to be in bed that early.  

Monday's are also my LONG days. I work both jobs on Mondays. So I go from one, get kids off the bus, change and head to the next. So I am gone from 7am to 8:30pm. It's exhausting.  

Today is no different... Only busier!!  My dad has a doctor's appointment at 2 that he really wants me to go with him to...so I told him I would. So I have to leave one job early, got my husband to pick the kids up from the bus, go to the doc appt with my dad, run home and change, and then head to job #2.  

To top everything off... I was supposed to have a phone interview today at 10am. I got a call from my bank at 9:55(tho i thought it was the interview-so I answered) and then the interview called- I missed the call trying to get off the phone with the bank, called the lady right back and she was now busy or at least I was told she was busy, so I don't know- I now may have lost that opportunity. Ugh. Frustrated.  Maybe its God keeping me from that job. I don't know.  I just have to have faith about it.  

I know God's got this. I still get frustrated and disappointed at times- its human nature.  

I miss this. Miss blogging all the time. I really need to get back into it. 

Blessings N Love
Overthinking Mama