thanksgiving

I m thankful for love...

my weekend

had a great weekend... had a wonderful thanksgiving. and got to send time with family. my bf came into town even tho he had the flu.. we celebrated baby girls bday Friday with my Mon, bro, and stepdad..Saturday I made s thanksgiving dinner for the kids, myself the bf. and Sunday was baby girls bday! so we went to chuck e cheese... then up to the hospital. to see nani and Papi. it was a great weekend.. tho Monday morning it was my turn with the flu, so I've been home the last couple days trying to get better... I m already :-)

my weekend

had a great weekend... had a wonderful thanksgiving. and got to send time with family. my bf came into town even tho he had the flu.. we celebrated baby girls bday Friday with my Mon, bro, and stepdad..Saturday I made s thanksgiving dinner for the kids, myself the bf. and Sunday was baby girls bday! so we went to chuck e cheese... then up to the hospital. to see nani and Papi. it was a great weekend.. tho Monday morning it was my turn with the flu, so I've been home the last couple days trying to get better... I m already :-)

almost thanksgiving

After today, I have a 4 day weekend. I am so looking forward to that. Like you have no.idea.  I am so in need of a break. 

Tonights plans are to go to the laundry matt… my son was sick the other day. In.my.bed. and threw up all over my mattress topper thingy.. and of course its way too big to fit into my washing machine. So I need to go and get it in a BIG washer and dryer and try and get it cleaned…  It says to just spot clean.. but who the hell wants to spot clean something that big and with that much puke. But I figured while I am at the laundry-matt ill start writing my paper that is due on Monday.  Yay.

Tomorrow the plans are to get my bro for a bit, go up to the hospital and see my step-mom  and then head to my moms for dinner.  I am still not sure what time my son is supposed to go with his dad.. waiting to hear back from him on that. ugh.  And I highly doubt my daughter’s father will even bother to try to attempt to see her for the holiday… maybe her bday on Sunday… but I am not holding my breath.

Sometime in the evening my BF and his daughter are planning on coming up, so I am looking forward to that.  And I am planning on having a T-day dinner either on Friday or Saturday. Not really sure which.  Celebrating my daughters bday with my mom and family on Friday night.. The rest of the weekend I really have no plans… maybe just watch movies and play board games with the kids… Then Sunday we are celebrating my daughter’s bday… not really sure exactly where or how… but she’s turning 4 so I am sure it will be fun.!

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

God Bless

Overthinking Mama

Step-Kids

I am not married and do not have any actual step kids of my own. But I do have a few girls that I consider like my own. Of course my BF's daughter Brianna (8) and then there's my daughter’s father and I were together for 1 1/2years. He has 3 other daughter’s beside ours and two of them I feel in my heart a strong connection to. Brianna (10) and Arianna (7). Brianna lives in another state with her grandmother and family there and Arianna now lives in another state but used to live here in Ohio with me.  When Arianna was here, her father and I while together would get her every other weekend. She was like a daughter to me and even after her father and I split, I would still go and get her on the weekends to make sure that her and my daughter had a good relationship.  I have also tried to stay in contact with Brianna over the years for this same reason and even when down to see her a few months back so she could meet my daughter (now 3).  To me, when you have a step child especially if you have your own children, that stepchild should be treated just like your own. Not like its someone else child you are having to take care of, and definitely NOT like this is the child that you spouse or significant other had with ANOTHER woman, because truth be told, it’s not this childs fault that it is in the situation that it is in.

One thing that I really dislike is when the “stepchild” is left out of family functions. Ok I know sometimes it can’t be helped… but sometimes you can arrange things differently so that the child can be included.

A few years ago my ex- m-i-l met me at the mall because she wanted my son to get his pic taken with Santa. I was going out there anyway, so it was all good. She had my son’s brother and his stepsister with him…  we got up and she set all 3 kids up there with Santa and then after that was done, she wanted a pic with just her two grandson’s and Santa and made the little girl stand off to the side. I felt sorry for the little girl.  It was like she was just pushed aside because she wasn’t blood. My ex m-i-l said- well I want a picture of my Grandson’s incase my son and her mom split up.  Really??  There’s that wonderful positive feeling that I missed. *NOT*  I mean ok.. I get it.. She ain't blood and one day she may not be part of the family anymore… but what if she always is apart of the family? What if you want to remember that wonderful moment with her there?  Should she just been pushed aside?   I don’t know… maybe I just look at things differently… 

Like next weekend, I am planning on getting “family” pictures taken.  My boyfriend and his daughter will be here. I want them in the pictures with me. I planned on having all of us in one… then me and my kids, him and his daughter and then me and him in the pics and maybe one of all the kids.   

I just feel like, if you have a step child, they should be included as if they were your own.  Not to be pushed aside. If I was going to get family pics and my BF and I had a child… I would not get a pic with just me, him and our child esp. if his child was there… or I would not get a pic of just me, him, and MY children and not his.   I just don’t think its right.  But I guess maybe that is just me… 

I mean I did take my ex’s daughter every other weekend after we split and he had nothing to do with her.  And I did make sure that my ex’s other daughter and mother and sister met my daughter this past summer, even though he’s made NO effort to do anything like that… 

Maybe I am just different?

God Bless

Overthinking Mama

Convo with the BF

Texting Convo with my BF:

Him: How’d you sleep last night?

Me: Like S***

Him: How come  you’ve been sleeping so bad?

Me: Idk. Lol. maybe cuz of stress?

Him: You should try some Unisom or something?

Me: Im scared too… I am afraid that that I will fall asleep so hard I wont hear if there is something wrong and then I wont wake up in the morning.

Him: Well that’s understandable.

Me: Plus I don’t have 6-10 hours to devote to sleep and I always have some heavy equipment to operate.

Him: Oh ok. Lol. J I didn’t you were using those heavy machine by your bed.

Me: Oh, I don’t. Normally on the front lawn. I don’t wanna wake the kids.

Him: oh. Ok.

Yea.. that’s how our convo’s go. Lol.

God Bless

Overthinking Mama

Convo with the BF

Texting Convo with my BF:

Him: How’d you sleep last night?

Me: Like S***

Him: How come  you’ve been sleeping so bad?

Me: Idk. Lol. maybe cuz of stress?

Him: You should try some Unisom or something?

Me: Im scared too… I am afraid that that I will fall asleep so hard I wont hear if there is something wrong and then I wont wake up in the morning.

Him: Well that’s understandable.

Me: Plus I don’t have 6-10 hours to devote to sleep and I always have some heavy equipment to operate.

Him: Oh ok. Lol. J I didn’t you were using those heavy machine by your bed.

Me: Oh, I don’t. Normally on the front lawn. I don’t wanna wake the kids.

Him: oh. Ok.

Yea.. that’s how our convo’s go. Lol.

God Bless

Overthinking Mama