Good Question

The question asked on Facebook was this: Who comes first in a woman's life? Husband, Father, Baby daddy or Son? 

There was a lot of great answers. 

Mine was pretty much the son should come first. Kids should come first above all else. 

These were a couple of the replies that really made me think. 

My initial answer was that the son/kids should always come first. But if you go by God's word- God comes first, then the husband and then the rest of the family.  My mindset for the last 9yrs was always that my kids came first- Period.  

I think that is a mindset that single women have- kids come first. Which after God- it should be.  But once you get married everything changes. I really think that its a hard concept to switch to, especially when you have has the mindset of kids first for so long.  You get used to that and so do the kids.   I think it is hard to switch priorites especially if the man you are marrying isn't the father of the kids.  

Maybe that is part of the reason that many blended families don't work. The woman has always put the kids first and once there is a man there it is a constant struggle of who to put first. Your husband wants to be first... the kids are used to being first.  It can be a very hard battle. 

What are your thoughts? 

Blessings N Love

Overthinking Mama 

The weekend

This past weekend was pretty good!  Nothing overly exciting happened, but overall it was good. 

Friday night we went to Home Depot to just look around and Mady absolutely loved it!!! She didn't want to leave the Christmas section. She kept running back over to there and didn't even care one bit that we weren't with her!  That girl is going to be a handful!! lol

Saturday, my hubby was off work so we were able to spend the day together... Christmas shopping.  The big girls went to Grami's to stay the night and the hubs and I got to spend time with the babies. We watched a couple movies and wrapped the big girls gifts.  

Sunday Hubs had to work. He got to take pictures of Santa and all the customers that came into the store.  The girls and I went shopping with Grami and then the girls and I went to hubs store and got their picture taken with santa. (see above)  

After Hubs got home from work- we went to my moms for dinner and then home again. 

Nothing too exciting, but it was a good weekend together! 

Hope yours was lovely! 

Blessings N Love

Overthinking Mama 

Realization Friday- on a saturday

This week I have come to realize:


~ That its December in Ohio... and I have seen at least 4 people out mowing their lawn. This Is Not Normal.

~ That it takes kids 6x as long to clean something as it would me.

~ The above statement is the reason why I just clean stuff up most of the time! 

~ The house is only clean when no one is home, including animals. 

~ That I need to stop and realize that the special moments that annoy me... I really should be savoring because one day I won't have those moments. 

~ That God is so good!!  

~ That being broke really sucks... but its making me think more creatively for Christmas.

~ I really hate that we don't have the money to get our family anything hardly for Christmas. Our family has done so much, helped so much and just always been there when we needed it and it really sucks that at this time of year we can give them something back. 




Well that's all for this week!! 

Have a great weekend!! 

Blessings N Love

Overthinking Mama

A December to Remember-Part 1

Our December to Remember starts on Thanksgiving! We try and stay busy with different Christmas activities until actual Christmas!  

Celebrating Renbugs 9th birthday! Where did the time go?? 

These were from just One day!!  We went and had Tea with Grami (my mom) for Renbugs birthday. Its a tradition we have been doing for years now.  Afterwards we went out to Cleveland for their tree lighting and then we went to the Carlisle Reservation for the Holiday walk and train ride.  It was such a fun and wonderful day!  We defenetly were exhausted by the time we went to bed! 

Madybear loves our Elf!! 

Admiring the Christmas tree... in toddler talk- trying to figure out which ornament to play with first! 

It really was an amazing day!!  Really hoping the girls remember it all for years to come!!! 


Blessings N Love
Overthinking Mama

Frustrated

I have been trying for the last hour to upload pics so that I could write a nice long blog post... but ugh!!! of course my computer is running super duper slow, and I have run out of time. 

Stay tuned for that nice post! lol!- A December to Remember!

Today is a crazy hectic day. I start my 4th job today. lol. Yes that is right, I said 4!!!  And I am working 3 of them today!! 

First its the church... then to the office of another where I am starting today- going to be doing marketing or something- still not sure about all the details. And then tonight at the grocery store my husband works at- I work in the bakery.  *phew* a long day. But my babies and family is worth it. Ya do what ya have to do in order to have a decent Christmas!  

Things have been hectic and crazy and I have been an emotional wreck lately. But I know God's got this! And everything will be alright!! 

Anywho- I need to head off to the next place... 

Blessings N Love
Overthinking Mama

:-(

I am not really sure what is going on with me this week.
I have no energy. No motivation. I seriously just want to sleep. I feel so overwhelmed with everything in life right now.
I just started a second part time job. Its in the evenings. So my hubby will be home with the kids while I am at work. I already dread it, and its only been one day!  I don't know whats going on with me.
I just want to curl up into a ball and bawl my eyes out.
Just seems like lately its one thing after another after another.  Always something coming apart or not working out right! I just want to scream!  I so need a break or a vacation or something!!!
I feel like all I do is work and clean.
I feel like a failure in everything that I do. I can't provide enough for my family anymore.  Even with working 3 jobs... and doing all the "home party" businesses... just doesn't seem to be enough.
I am just so frustrated. I feel like there is no end.
I seriously just want to sleep the days away. :-(

Random

I have been wanting to write something for the longest... but each time, I can't figure out what I want to write.  Same thing with today... I have no idea what to write. But I figured that I would at least sit down and start typing and hope that something just comes out. 

The kids have started back to school this week. Man has the time flown by!!! Summer went by so quick and yet there is a part of me that is relieved that school is back in. We are back on a set schedule and maybe- just maybe I can keep my house just a little bit cleaner (doubt it) since my two big girls are like walking tornados! lol  

It's hard to believe that my first born is a 8th grader this year... Next Year- HIGH SCHOOL!!!!  It just seems unreal. Before I know it Baby Lily will be in high school and I will probably have grandbabies!!! 

First day of school went pretty good for all the kids. Ren said it was random. lol whatever that means. Sami got put on the wrong bus, apparently they didn't update their information in the last 2 years and she was sent home to her previous address before she came to live with us!! I was so ticked off!!!! I seriously was almost in tears! 

My husbands great-aunt passed away Tuesday morning so my whole week has been throw off with that. My husband and his family have been in my thoughts all week.  I was supposed to meet with a lady today about signing up with Tealightful... but I completely forgot. UGH! Hopefully will be able to catch up next week. 

I have been trying to go through everything in our house and downsize!!! We just have way way way too much stuff with all the kids... and its just too much in our little house.  

My mom and I have been talking about opening up a thrift store... so hopefully I will be able to put all the extra stuff I have aside to get that started up.  I have been posting a lot of it on Facebook trying to sell it... but that hasn't worked out too well. :-( 

Alright... I need to get back to finishing up everything that needs done!! 

Blessings N Love

Overthinking Mama